Did, Didn't, Do

How do you know if your being appreciated or not? Is it what they do, what they say or how the act? Every relationship changes with the feel of appreciation. I've been told that appreciation does not need to be spoken aloud, but rather felt.

If comparing what a list of what has been done determines how appreciated they are, then I should be at the top. But the truth is, its not just what you do. I find girls very conflicting in what they say since they say "I never see or talk to you anymore", but when you see them there isn't much to even say. Is that a sign that things should be over? But if it should end like this, then why are there feelings that tell us to hold on?

This post has a lot of questions, because I still question myself about what I should do. I know what the answer should be, but is hope enough to keep me going? Hope is normally just wishful thinking so why give yourself hope when there is no hope...

J2

mutual friendship.

soo j2 finally wanted to post something.. but the blogger website wouldn't load on his computer for some reason.. so i told him i would post our msn conversation :)

* the black is j & the blue is J2

mm i read a story

a guy met this girl and cause of one thing he broke up with her

he searched his whole life looking for that perfect someone

in the end he settled for less then what he could've had if it was that first girl

that stories always on my mind now

hahah wish you showed c that story

just cause it happened to that one guy

you settle what you let yourself settle for. if you have expectations.. you will never find anyone that meets them

true and not true

alot of people settle for less

some people settle for a bit better

some settle or what they think is good

and some do search hoping to find that someone

its possible to find someone perfect but chances are slim

thats why a and s were almost perfect for me

a knew how to treat a man and obeyed

s was willing to yell at me if she knew it was right

keep me in line

there are lots of girls like that

u just haven't met the one yet

for sure you can find a girl.. u just have to wait a little

yea

me gonna wait longer

and not date until

i unno

i feel like it

that's why im not bawling over c anymore.. im keeping faith ill meet someone

yea me gonna try that

im talking to m right now

she keeps telling me how she cares

but i know it won't be the same

all ex's say they care

c said he still cares

i know she means it

but its in a different way

i know c means it too. but im not giving him the chance to truely be my friend until im over it

cause if im not over it.. im just gonna keep going back asking him for more

yea

thats what im saying too

gj buddy

we think alike

:) cavepeople forlifeeeee

yupyup

You want what you will never have again

So I haven't posted in a while due to a lot of things happening. Its really depressing because now I barely have the chance to go out and drink. I Miss the times when I could leave my house at 9 p.m and come home at 8 a.m, but I don't think ill have that chance anymore well not for a while. I'm writing What's on my mind, but that's not the moral of this post.

People always want what they can't have, especially girls. But the thing is why do they want it after they've given up On it? That seems ironic. Yes you can say they realized it was a mistake, but that's not a good enough answer when the thing they wanted was there all along.
So recently, I started dating a girl, wow surprise I finally settled for someone. But yea, then my ex calls and she finds out... No big deal. A few days later I get a call from her, while I'm talking to my gf, not so cool. Its 2 a.m and she calls out of the blue, the main thing is she regrets not thinking things through Before letting go... Well that's too bad. Retard (her) " I wanted you to give me time and wait for atleast 6 months to a year", while she sees other dudes and I wait patiently day after day for her. Hell no do I look like a retard. So I tell her "I think you want what u can't have. It happens all the time in relationships, but Guess what... Surprise, its gonna happen again, I'm taken and happy. Good bye"

Another thing popped up over the weekend that was interesting. A previous prospect finds out I have a gf and freaks out. All she can say is I hate you So much... That's good for me because I don't want you bothering me. Now the surprise comes. She saids, "I'm happy for you, I'm not a home wrecker, BUT do you Think I'll ever have a chance. I like you so much and waited all this time." Uh girl u just said ur happy for me why would you ask something so dumb.

When girls have their chance, they never realize it, and when its too late they come running back in hope things have never changed. Well ill let out the secret, things Do change and people don't always wait. This isn't like the tv shows where mr. Whipped waits his lifetime for you, and things turn out to be perfect. This Is reality and In reality, real things happen. People do move on eventually, unless their plain stupid. So now that the truth is out, guys and girl, I hope you cherish what You feel is important to you, because things do and will change, and when you want it to turn back, it may be to late.

J2

Fairytales and Reality

I would like to start by thanking L in writing her first post. I've seen her, met her and talked to her. She's cool.

But back to my regular blogs. Is it true that all girls want to live that fairytale they heard when they were young, or are some just more hopeful then others? I've asked many girls and all of them say they want to live the fairytale story, where they are in a desperate situation, but guess what... no way... it can't be... Prince Charming/Perfect/Nonexistent comes and sweeps them off their feet and saves them from the misery they currently experience, and everything ends perfectly.
How often does this happen? I don't know, I don't know everyone in the world, but from my experience less then 1% of the time.

I was asked by a realist girl, "How long do you think we will be together?"
What would any normal person say... "Forever", but nope. She's a realist so why say something stupid where she is going to debate about. I told her, "As long as your will to try with me"
Then the topic turns into fairytales. She asks if I'm that perfect guy from cinderella who would search the whole kingdom to give her back her shoe.
God damnit girl your a realist why are you asking the most ironic questions. In my mind, kingdom = my house. If your in my house I'll find you, if not see you when I do.

J2

End of mind games

Hey, I haven't posted in a while but I woke up early, like 6 a.m early after a whole night drinking because
My bro is snoring so damn loud I swear he's shaking the earth with each breath.
But yea, I was told by a great pick up artist, that no matter what you will always be playing mind games. In
Order to keep a fling, relationship and marriage interesting, mind games must be played. So being the student,
I continue to show guys that no matter who the girl is, they can be played or manipulated.

An earlier prospect I had recently begun ignoring me. That was fine with me. I thought she ignored me because she
Found out I was interested in someone else. So I get a random msg from her and she is talking like we still talk...
Well guys what do you do?

1. Talk to her like normal
2. Ask if she msg the wrong person
3. Ignore her
4. Tell her she's retarded

Well, I chose 4 and if u can figure it out then you don't need to read this post no more.

This is going to be my last post on mind games, so I'll tell you the reason I thought 4 was the best
Out of all of them.

The girl msgs u so she is still interested.
If you give in by doing the norm, you'll be labelled as easy
Since you haven't talked to her for a while, you got to have some way of starting a convo, and since she was the one to msg, she will not ignore you

J2

Unexpected call

So during my vacation, me and J were going through mind games and I told her I would have to ignore this girl the whole trip to
Catch her undying attention. Well no matter how tempted I was, I continued to ignore her
Each and everone question. Well guys guess what, it worked.

We texted when I got off the plane and suddenly my phone vibrates more then twice, I look down and its her.
We talk giggle, talk about my trip then she pitches the question, why did u ignore me everytime I asked when u were comming back. The
First thing that popped in my mind was to make my arrival more suspensful. She then pitched it again, did u want me to think about it the whole time?
Hhaaha obviously, which is why I know it bothers her now.

J, we both got prospects

J2

True Friends

I would like to start this post with thanks J, you were the one person I could always rely on before I got
To toronto, while I was in toronto, and after I came back to visit. I hope those moments we had will not be
The end, but just another giggle we can have for the future.

Typically I write about guys tactics on girls, but today I'm going to talk about friendship. After leaving edmonton
A year ago I still kept in touch with my close friends. When they came to visit, things seemed a bit different but still
Good. This time when I came back, things were very different. I guess I'm just not use to their new personalities, but
If we were meant to be friends, no matter what we always will be.

I'm leaving now...

J2

A B C or C B A

So I couldn't think of a title for this blog. But my title kind of relates to what I will be talking about.
In reply to J's post about who should make the first move, my perception is that
It really all depends on the person your targetting. If your a girl and you see a shy but cute guy who looks
Sophisticated, do you want to pass up this opportunity. Because chances are he's not going to come to you. But
Say he's a guy who's like the typical charming guy, who talks to every girl then yea I would wait for him to come
To me. So there really isn't a who should do what. If your really traditional then that's your choice
And you can wait for the guy to come to you J, but your def not shy.

Now what guys should do to approach women. Say you see a girl across the room, having the on and off conversation with
The person next to her, but she continually glances around. That's your cue to see if you can sweep her off her feet. I'm not
Saying you have to be the perfect charming dude, but see if you can interest her with some humour and serious listening. Girls
Actually feel more attracted when your genuine in listening to them. Now you see a girl who talks to everyone and anyone, as a guy
You have to consider if you make the first move, your going to be like everyone else, showing interest by even approaching. So what you
Do is completely ignore her, and talk to her friend (hopefully a girl) and show interest there. When the attention whore dosent get all
The attention she wants, she will turn to you.

That's my reply to J's post on first approaches. My next post will be talking more about mind games and why girls need to know when to surrender.

J2

Emotions always get the better of Us

Every girl and guy that I have talked to always seem very rational when talking, but when i ask serious questions they tell me the most irrational responses. I asked a friend have you ever hit a girl? He asks what you mean and I already know he has at this point. But when i ask why he saids I was drunk and she got me really mad. Not Cool dude, never ever hit a girl. I must admit I have slightly hit a girl, but either way its still hitting even if its a light punch on the shoulder.

So today, my drunk friend saw his ex gf on the phone the whole day and snatched it and scared her. He even chased her down the stairs in his apartment to get her and talk to her, but because of his emotions he scared her more. Is it wrong for a guy to still try even though they've broken up? I've been through break up's and tried. But is it okay to snatch a phone away because you want her attention? My opinion is No, what are yours? Think about it and think about it drunk, probly 2 different answers.

Thats my post cause I was bored and it just happened.

J2

Playing Back the right Way at the Right Time

So I had a blog written about Girls playing mind games and how guys can over come that, but unfortunately it got erased when my BB turned off. So now I'm just gonna tell you what happened when put into action. I actually was just on the phone with my coolest friend J and we talked, actually I talked she listened and got jealous cause I got more to talk about then her today.

So Girl A, shes msgs me after i msg her, normal and we have a random conversation. She then tells me that were not seeing each other for the next yr. So this signals she wants me to make an effort to talk to her more cause she wants MY ATTENTION. Being the guy I am, I tell her no, were never talking again, playing back... Guys only do this if you know the girl well. This girl is clingy as hell so I know no matter what I say she won't give up. End of conversation. few hours later she msgs back and asks to hang out. My hard to play act got her wanting me more. Now all i gotta do is give in a bit and pull away more. She's hooked, and to reinsure she even calls me to come meet up.

Girl B, we flirt back and forth and shes good at mind games. I haven't talked to her in a few days because shes been outta town, and at the same time I don't want to appear like I want her attention. Thats desperation if I do. So today she msgs me when she gets off the plane and tells me random things. Then she asks do I miss her, normally a amateur would be like yes, and intermediate, somehwhat/maybe, and expert would play back saying depends on what missing means, but me I change my game because I already know from the past she's interested. I say Of Course, because I know you miss me too. She saids some denial things, but at the end of our conversation she admits she did and we should meet up. I'm 2 for 2 tonight

Girl C, haha this is the funniest girl. I seen her maybe 2 times including tonight. Everytime I see her I make fun of her, because how else you going to establish your appearance in a girl. Don't go overboard with insults because it will ruin your reputation. Base it on their personality and how easy going they are. I barely talk to this girl but while im out, I get a msg from a number I don't know... surprise its her. She saids some things, then she plays hard to get when I ask if she is gonna come out tomorrow. Already I know she wants to play mind games. So I act interested to give in a bit by saying, oh I only said this because I noticed you... Then she would say something back and I would pull away by saying "Actually, I'm going to be too busy to actually talk to you" from there I could go 2 ways... Continue the conversation by showing more interest and setting up another date, or by being cold and just stop talking. But because I know how this girl is... I get information from people, I stop talking to her.

The point is not to brag, but give you an example on 3 different situations. There's never one generic move to make on all girls, if not there wouldn't be books or classes on picking up girls. Guys, never give in to a girls mind games or they will destroy you, but never ignore because they will forget. Thats why you gotta give the right amount of push and pull at the right time. Timing is key. I only posted this cause some dude who read this post said to post more

J2

Once in a Lifetime

So I haven't slept all night, and since I'm waiting for my friends to go breakfast I thought I might as well take you through my thoughts while driving.
After going to a friends wedding a few weeks ago, I always thought about how I would propose to the women who completes me. If you haven't figured out yet this
Is J2, not J, since she's not a lesbian I hope. But back to my thoughts. I hear about all these ways friends and acquaintances have proposed such as:

Putting a ring inside a kinder surprise, and asking when she opens it
Putting it inside a rose before it blooms and then going there on the day of to see it bloom and ask
Just being boring and asking... If I was the girl I would tell him to find a boring girl to propose to then, put more effort idiot
Taking a girl to a romantic spot and asking at the right moment
Doing a magic trick and setting up the atmosphere then asking
Putting it into a tray and then having it come as the first entree... That guy watches too many chinese series

Some of these are good, but its not what I think would give a girl an unforgettable moment. I was thinking the whole ride how would I propose. I hate to think of my ex girlfriend,
But the way I was planning to do it with her was to make a heart out of an iron rode that would have mini candle holders. There would be a certain number of candle holders
Because each candle would represent a month we shared together. On each candle I would engrave a phrase of how I felt that month. Yes I did write it down because I am that sappy. So if the month
Great where we never argued, it would say something like "your the reason I smile everyday", if I was away for majority of the month it would say "being beside you is like being at home". You get
Point. So I would set up the iron heart with candles in a nice scenic spot, which for us was in emily murphy park cause it looks up to downtown. So after taking her there and having everything set
Up, I would compose my own vows, something similar to a walk to remember when she talks about love. Then after I said my part I would ask if she felt the same way. If she did then she's basically
Saying yes. If she saids I'm not sure then you don't even got to propose you got your answer there and you don't look like an idiot.

I don't know why I'm blogging about this just guess I'm listening to some emo music while waiting for my friends.

J2

To Do or Not to Do

So this blog is a switch between J and J2. I'm obviously J2 cause im Just 2 Cool. But yea i wanted to talk about what guys always think but never think before they do. So I moved to this far off place meeting new girls and everything was good until I was put to the test. My friend told me to go hook up with this girl who thought I was the bomb. haha yea the bomb. She def had to much to drink cause I look at myself in the mirror everyday and I don't blow up. So i decided to and my contemplation came. Should I go all the way or let the drunk pleasure herself. My friend msgs me as I get home and tells me to go all the way if I can. Well obviously since i'm the bomb I'm not going to back down. That night we did what we could since she skunked my car with her puke and my jacket. For anyone wondering if i was desperate enough to kiss her puke I didn't I pushed her away everytime. So after I got to where I did with her, she starts cuddling and at the moment I realized I should've thought it out. Now i'm being bother literally every 10-20 mins with a txt msg wondering where I am, who I'm with and if I want to sleep over AGAIN.

So just for you guys out there, people will tell you if you do it make sure you do it safe. I'm going to tell you, if you do it make sure she dosen't have your phone number, because she could be those clingy girls who don't comprehend the word NO.

Thats my part, I'll keep everyone updated with the girl I finally decide to settle down, and yes she will be the defuser cause I am the "BOMB"

J2