"Some girls you see, the first thing that comes to mind is wow she'd make such an amazing girlfriend. Others you look at, you're just like "i'd soo eff her" " - sm
"For some guys after first impression of meeting a girl they put then into either friend category or possible girlfriend one. once that opinion is made, it's hard to change." -sm
okay. so me and sm are bored out of our minds and he likes to talk about the most random things. that's probably why we like to sit on the roof of parking lots and talk till the wee hours in the morning right? (damn you snow!) anyways. so back to the topic of first impressions. In sm's point of view.. its one or the other.. and from that point on, it rarely changes. (so guys point of view)
girls point of view, when I see a guy my first thought is, is he good looking or not. (so physical assessment..and yes, i am shallow to a certain extent. bite me.) whats his personality like. how is he dressed. if he gets those checked, then hes on the potential bf material. if he doesn't have all three checked, hes on the friends list. if he makes the first cut, he has to jump through the finances, dbag level.. and well. ya. everything else assessment. SO I guess.. unless they fit the first three.. they're in the friends zone.
sometimes however.. people grow on you. such as.. looks don't matter so much... esp when you find out their taste in music is EXACT as yours and they're the most easiest person to talk to. or something along those lines. I find that when the guy is in the friend's zone, he's much easier to talk to too. so that gives him 1up to other guys..cause the girl has already let her guard down. and he can woo her with what a cool guy he really is. i find that i've gone back on the whole friends thing for juuust a couple of minutes and said to myself.. hey.. he's acually..bf.. materi..a.... l? mmhmm.
but peoples opinions change all the time right? just gotta find the right mix of 'guy i'd love to lust' and 'guy that would make the perfect bf'. i think.. i hope this all made sense lol.
unfortunately though, personality doesn't always win. for guys.. i assume, if shes got the looks and no personality, shes a piece of meat. SO therefore.. sm.. i am going to find you a wife. so that you can stop chewing the pieces of yuck you've managed to attract. ya? good.
- j
It is true that some people may potentially grow on you in the future and there is nothing wrong with that. However, how long is it until you realize there is potential in this person? How much has the friendship flourished since the first time you've met?
ReplyDeleteThe person may grow on you, but is the risk of ruining a friendship worth pursuing him? Most of the time I believe that these "friends" that you begin to fall for are better described as an acquaintance rather than a friend.
There will always be incidents where your first impression and how you later see the person changes, but it is very hard to change this intitial opinion of the person. Which leads me to conclude, by the time you finally come to the realization that person is a potential bf rather than a friend, would it already be too late?
Now I need to go study cause I am screwed for my 3 mid-terms next week!
-sm
~irockursocks > ilaughiawkward~
this post wasn't about me wanting to persue a friend silly goose.. lol
ReplyDeletebut i see your point. lol good talk good talk
- j
I never said you were pursuing a friend!
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